My 10 year old daughter had been suffering from extreme lack of self confidence when I happened to meet Giora at a meeting. From hearing him talk about his work, I felt he could help my daughter. She has been seeing him for a little over a year now. She gave us very hard time about going to him. She was very critical of him, lots of “Why do I have to.” I insisted, bribed her and she went.
In the beginning, she wanted me to sit in on their sessions. I was very impressed with Giora’s empathy, patience, respect for her, as well as his ability to reflect back her feelings to her as expressed through her artwork. She was not verbally responsive to him, but it was clear he made an impact on her and she was always very cheerful after her sessions.
The past year was not all easy sailing. There were (and are) times when tremendous anger erupted on a frequent basis. Giora made me realize this was part of the process for her and suggested that we accept her feelings, that there were reasons for her anger. Not easy to do! On the other side, there have also been times when she showed tremendous love.
I can’t say our family relationships have improved much. There is still a lot of fighting with siblings. But there have been small changes along the way. In the past few months I have gotten feedback from school that she is doing better. I think she feels a somewhat more likeable and has taken some little steps towards relationships with her peers. She has gone from refusing to do any extra-curricular activities to asking for music lessons. And I myself have tried to pay attention to the way I react to her. I know part of her problem is me and I am working on that part.